OBSERVATORY

There  are few things that I personally take pride, one of them is no doubt the  innate potential/ gift of profound OBSERVATION. I observe everything practically, people, seasons, flora and fauna, situations...everything. Though these observations are not deductive in nature they certainly are suggestive. Of course, owing to the fact that these observations are to be made in complete anonymity otherwise the results would change, I hardly reveal my reflections  on people.

Observing people and their habits, I have learn't a lot...I mean if not in terms of experience then definitely in terms of observation I have seen so much. the urge to observe had no doubt left me quite and at times melancholy, but the sombre makes me happy. this might sound a bit paradoxical but its the truth nonetheless.

One day I was observing my three year old niece, she was playing with the new set of crayons that we just gave her.  On a piece of paper, this child of three, was doodling her imagination. As i was observing her, it appeared to me that she was drawing a woman with bags in her hand, food next to her and  the face of this woman was somehow sad. While she was drawing this picture she was concentrating on the details like a professional. This made me  question her, whom she was drawing and what it  meant. This child whom I wrongfully thought to be three answered readily, this is you Aunty. You are always on move, going to different places and meeting different people so here you are carrying your bags. You make the yummiest food and so this is food next to you and whenever I see you...you are always SAD.

This statement by a child of three lead me to an epiphany. While i was observing her, she had already observed me.

We all are observatories...observing habits and actions of each other making derivations, suggestions and conclusions. We all are observers of each other. When a scientist observes a Star from an observatory..is it possible that from that celestial body someone might be observing us at the same time? Is it possible that our superiority in observation is mellowed down somewhere by the reciprocal observation of those whom we observe? These questions baffle me.

This Child of three was no doubt a better observer than Me....

Rubber Bands

Some relations are like rubber bands. You can stretch them, twist them, bend them but the two ends finally meet.

 They are elastic they can stretch, so true indeed, some relations are unbound and they never break their connection. Everyone had one relation in their life that never ever can be broken...you may find that relation in form of your parents, spouse, partner...i found it in my friend. No matter what, no matter how you may want to break this relationship you may try to cut the cord that joins you. A point comes when you frustratingly fail to do so. There are people with whom you may want to keep no connection, no touch of whatsoever form, but, then again something compels you to continue this relation.

Its a predicament, in such situation, no doubt, confusion hovers all the time. The question  that most of us confront in such  a situation is, whether such a person really wants to stay with us? A  bigger and, in my opinion, a more powerful question is whether we want to be with such a person?

Believe me this is the toughest yet the most simplest question in this world. In answer to this question, imagine the world and your life sans that person. If you can live in absence of him/her then its better to pack your bags and wear the swiftest shoes and run. However, if you cant imagine your life and the world without such a person then Stop, Wait and evaluate your feelings for  such a person. 

At times, our heart is more honest than our minds. At times, we think that there are so many things on this  Earth to ponder upon like insurance, contracts, businesses, our own professional life. In middle of so  much happening in our lives we tend to forget people. We tend to forget their importance. We tend to take them for granted. We tend to miscalculate their value, their significance in our lives. The above suggested test merely puts across  the reality on our faces.

So if you have someone really special in your life whom you think you can never leave then throw aside that Ego and kill that doubt in your mind. Be with that person, love him/ her, care for him/ her and never let  them go. Don't forget such relations are Rubber Bands.

You may try to stretch them and run away from them. But, the truth is, that, you will end up hurting yourself the most.