On Being Lonely

The hard reality of life is that we all..and when i  say "all" i mean All are basically alone in this  world. You may think that you are happily married or have the comfort of a friend or family. The point is that at some point of time or the other we all are  left lonely despite the facade of merry people around us.

I consider myself a fairly happy  and moderately social person, my facebook account reflects a  substantial number of friends and acquiantances. As  a  matter of fact, the number of people i know is pretty high. But the hard truth lies in the fact that when i  really want to talk i have no one.

Technology has made all so close yet so far.  The truth cannot be denied  that we  spent most of our time on either the phone or the social media sites, however, how distant we have become. We dont think twice while hurting those who love us or care for  us. We simply have stopped caring.

We at large have become so practical that people made  of flesh and blood have become documents or a number on phone for us, people who are dying for our love, care, appreciation or may be just a look from us have been brutally made so away from us by our insensitivity.

I believe that people are basically good by nature and mostly do not know what misery they cause to others, but maybe i am wrong and pray that I turn right on this perspective.

I pray that no one should be ever alone or lonely. People are good true.....let no heart be ever  LONELY

PARALLEL UNIVERSE and ME

Is there really a parallel universe? I think there  is...i think there are some version of our world though slightly different. A place where different choices are made by our own versions and that moulds the person that they are.
Parallel universe gives a escape chute atleast to a person like me. There are certain things that we might want more than anything it can be a car, a designation, it can be that special person with whom you wanted to spend your lifetime with. It can be anything and anyone. Parallel Universe acts like a dumping ground for those dreams and ideas that were not fulfilled by us.
The idea of a parallel universe is not just a gift of quantum physics it is the hoping ground, it is the alter of dreamers and philosophers.
What a relief it would have been to realize that the ideas that dint work out on this universe may work out somewhere else. What a relief itwould have been to realise that still there is a possibility that the dreams that were been asked to forget the possibilities that were rejected the notions that were set aside could all occur somewhere else.
Of course this would mean imagining an EL Dorado, no doubt, but what a fantacy would that be! a Wonderland where dreams come true....they do come true.
This might sound schizophrenic, but then again, isn't life itself a fit of schizophrenia? There are illusions and delusions that we might be living in. Illusion of love and delusion of the same. Illusion of hatred and delusion of the same. Illusion of wealth and delusion of the same. The list is endless. The inadequacies in life are everywhere and with everyone. These inadequacies act as open ended threads that often entangles our actions and reactions.
I agree with the realists when they denounce such escaping grounds saying that they are merely dreams. But aren't dreams important? Don't they play a vital role in moulding the shape of our future? The idea of a parallel universe might baffle a realist but for me i like it because the thought that somewhere some version of me is with the person i long to be with makes me feel happy. The idea that somewhere some version of me is achieveing what I want makes me proud. If conceiving a parallel universe makes me happy then why shouldn't I dream?

Hmmm....LOVE

Is it necessary that the person you love must love you back? Is it necessary that the One that you cannot live without feels the same for you? Is it necessary that love must be  reciprocated in the same manner and magnitude? A practical mind may answer these questions in positive but a mind and heart in love will float in it's own emotions and answers to these questions in negative.

With each negative answer emerges a unison question: How much to Love?

You may be in Love with anybody on this Earth...it does not matter,  what matters is the fact that you are in Love. Pragmatic may call this the biggest mistake of one's life no doubt. But, for a heart that has tasted the nectar of love this is the biggest and the most significant experience.

There are no set rules that might determine the quantum of love in your heart. Love like free flowing river.... A river only keep on flowing, pouring its water for benefit of all. When a river flows, when it quenches the thirst of millions, does it question how much to pour? Why to  pour the water though nobody  is replenishing it? A river is a perfect example of  self-less  love...it symbolizes the purity and magnanimity of  love. It epitomizes love. Even when it swells, even when it floods  it's banks it leaves its banks FERTILE. That is the beauty of true love. There is no quantum, no definition, no parameters, no  extent of love.

There is nothing called True or False love. How can one judge a feeling so pure? Can a mother judge her love for her child  as true or false? There is truly nothing called True or  False love, and if there is then it is merely a matter of  perspective. WE SEE WHAT WE WANT TO SEE. If you want to see love in someone's eyes then you will see and call it True Love and if you don't want to do so then out of convenience you may call it False.  

This leaves us to the final question: What if the One whom you love the most does not reciprocate to  your love? The only answer to this question can be found in the love  that we witness everyday yet we tend to ignore it. Everyday there is some being that feeds us, tends to our needs, furnishes us, replenishes us...that being makes our existence possible. Such a  selfless love is showered on each one of us by Mother Earth.... Love like Nature...when it feeds you it does not expect anything, when it tends you it does not expect, even when it protects you still does it expect anything in return?

Love from within your heart....keep on loving no matter what. Its true that the path would not be simple neither will it be easy. But, where Love promised you all these luxuries?

Just bear in mind while loving, that, When you loved someone you dint contractually oblige the other to love you back. So, go on loving, without any reason, logic or rationale attached to your feelings. Love like the River, like Nature.... Go  on loving...don't give up on Love because Love never gave up on you!

MAGIC WAND

Who  does not know the story of Cinderella. Who is not amused by the purity of the story? Who does not wonder, had there been a Fairy Godmother our problems would have solved...every issue  that bothered us...every  intricacy that has spun its web around our lives making it complex would have magically disappeared.

Well I too believe in fairy tales...I do believe that there is a fairy Godmother, I do believe that she has a magic wand. I do believe that the wand takes away all problems and makes  this world a better place to live in.

With this thought, this firm  belief I started a quest, a journey that took my strength it took away my youth. From a supple youth with soft black curls, slowly I turned into a hag with brittle skin and grey locks. I fanatically started looking for this magic wand. The possession of this Key to all happiness became my sole purpose. Every unsuccessful attempt made me...compelled me look more...search more and gander more. Next  step I may get it, was my call. I was in a frenzy and later the frenzy became my obsession. "Just another step...a bit more", was the voice deep within me.

My quest was not for just  my selfish need to be happy, it had a higher purpose too. I wanted the wand to take away the eye-sores of the world polity and economy and socio-religious panorama. I aimed to take away poverty, intolerance, religious and ethnic differences; I wanted to spread love, happiness and peace all over.

So i convinced myself of this higher cause and a collateral selfish purpose and continued with the quest. Through the journey  in search of the Magic Wand  I crossed lands and seas  and meet different people with different ways. Finally i reached the place where I had come to know that the Magic Wand was hidden.

I walked closer and closer to the place to my Magic wand. As I was walking close I could feel my heart go numb...I was losing my senses! I told myself, "not now! You are so close to it!" I could see my Magic Wand it was in front of me but now I could not get up, I could not touch it. There it was the prize of my endearvours and I saw it vanishing away into thin air....

When I woke up, I found  myself in a humble cottage, I still could not believe that my quest...my obsession...my Wand was gone for ever.  With the sense of the loss that I had just suffered I started sobbing and started cursing my fate. All I wanted was a magic wand that would take away all the problems and spread  Bliss in my life and People at large could also be happy!!

As I was crying over my ill-fate, a fragile lady came over, she has a peaceful aura around her, she had some kind of attraction  that compelled people to look at her,  a smile that was so content. I looked at her and asked her where  was I and Why was she so happy so much so that she looked DIVINE.

To my questions she answered, that, I was at her cottage and she is always happy because she possesses the MAGIC WAND. The Magic Wand!! my Magic Wand...yes the one that I wanted so dearly, the one that made me come here! I asked her in the most humble manner if she could give me her Magic wand. To my question she smiled, went to the wooden peck on the wall where my clothes were  hung  and from the folds of my own clothes she pulled out a Magic Wand,  "how can I give you my Magic Wand when throughout your quest you always had your Magic Wand with your own self?"

We  all carry our Magic Wands with ourselves, the solutions to our problems and answer to all our issues. We do not realize the potential of our  Magic Wands, we are so busy in the search of a perfect life that we miss to see the perfectness of this imperfect life that we lead. Our Magic Wand are the people around us those who make our lives worth living. Our Magic Wand is the goal of our life that must aim at making this world  a better place to live in. Our Magic Wand is we, our mind, our heart and our soul...our magic wand is deep within us all we have to do is undrape our minds bring the purest thought and then our problems will shed away.

The Magic Wand is We...We are the solution of our own problems.

OBSERVATORY

There  are few things that I personally take pride, one of them is no doubt the  innate potential/ gift of profound OBSERVATION. I observe everything practically, people, seasons, flora and fauna, situations...everything. Though these observations are not deductive in nature they certainly are suggestive. Of course, owing to the fact that these observations are to be made in complete anonymity otherwise the results would change, I hardly reveal my reflections  on people.

Observing people and their habits, I have learn't a lot...I mean if not in terms of experience then definitely in terms of observation I have seen so much. the urge to observe had no doubt left me quite and at times melancholy, but the sombre makes me happy. this might sound a bit paradoxical but its the truth nonetheless.

One day I was observing my three year old niece, she was playing with the new set of crayons that we just gave her.  On a piece of paper, this child of three, was doodling her imagination. As i was observing her, it appeared to me that she was drawing a woman with bags in her hand, food next to her and  the face of this woman was somehow sad. While she was drawing this picture she was concentrating on the details like a professional. This made me  question her, whom she was drawing and what it  meant. This child whom I wrongfully thought to be three answered readily, this is you Aunty. You are always on move, going to different places and meeting different people so here you are carrying your bags. You make the yummiest food and so this is food next to you and whenever I see you...you are always SAD.

This statement by a child of three lead me to an epiphany. While i was observing her, she had already observed me.

We all are observatories...observing habits and actions of each other making derivations, suggestions and conclusions. We all are observers of each other. When a scientist observes a Star from an observatory..is it possible that from that celestial body someone might be observing us at the same time? Is it possible that our superiority in observation is mellowed down somewhere by the reciprocal observation of those whom we observe? These questions baffle me.

This Child of three was no doubt a better observer than Me....

Rubber Bands

Some relations are like rubber bands. You can stretch them, twist them, bend them but the two ends finally meet.

 They are elastic they can stretch, so true indeed, some relations are unbound and they never break their connection. Everyone had one relation in their life that never ever can be broken...you may find that relation in form of your parents, spouse, partner...i found it in my friend. No matter what, no matter how you may want to break this relationship you may try to cut the cord that joins you. A point comes when you frustratingly fail to do so. There are people with whom you may want to keep no connection, no touch of whatsoever form, but, then again something compels you to continue this relation.

Its a predicament, in such situation, no doubt, confusion hovers all the time. The question  that most of us confront in such  a situation is, whether such a person really wants to stay with us? A  bigger and, in my opinion, a more powerful question is whether we want to be with such a person?

Believe me this is the toughest yet the most simplest question in this world. In answer to this question, imagine the world and your life sans that person. If you can live in absence of him/her then its better to pack your bags and wear the swiftest shoes and run. However, if you cant imagine your life and the world without such a person then Stop, Wait and evaluate your feelings for  such a person. 

At times, our heart is more honest than our minds. At times, we think that there are so many things on this  Earth to ponder upon like insurance, contracts, businesses, our own professional life. In middle of so  much happening in our lives we tend to forget people. We tend to forget their importance. We tend to take them for granted. We tend to miscalculate their value, their significance in our lives. The above suggested test merely puts across  the reality on our faces.

So if you have someone really special in your life whom you think you can never leave then throw aside that Ego and kill that doubt in your mind. Be with that person, love him/ her, care for him/ her and never let  them go. Don't forget such relations are Rubber Bands.

You may try to stretch them and run away from them. But, the truth is, that, you will end up hurting yourself the most.